It's That Easy!

I've always been a dreamer and the older I get and move along in this journey we call life, the more I realize that we really do make things harder for ourselves than they need to be. Perhaps if from the start when we create our dreams, goals and missions, we eliminated fear and doubt from the equation, we would get where we are going much faster. We didn't come with a handbook in this life which I often say we should have but we did come with options. When it comes to pursuing dreams and getting what we want I say "It's That Easy!" You can have everything you want and it's not hard to have everything as long as you know that you are entitled. From now on tell yourself with each obstacle you face and then overcome "It's That Easy!" Life is as easy as you choose to make it so release the drama and get into the easy.

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Which One Are You Gonna Be

They say (who are they) out of the mouth of babes" but it's really true. I have often referenced the commercial that shows the kid spouting out wayyy TMI and the parent quickly shoving a granola bar into their mouth. We have a few of those moments but for the most part the things that come out of my 3 year old sons mouth are hysterical and creative and worthy of documenting so this is where I will do just that.

1.Me "where is your Dude shirt you just had on?"
Him "It wasn't young enough."

2. Him "Mommy I'm so sowwy, I peed in yowr bed, now it's the peepee bed, I'm so sowwy mommy.

3. He Enters out of nowhere with no introduction..
Him"mommy which one are you gonna be?"
He means which of the 22 power rangers he has in his hand or the one on T.V I'm allowed to pick whoever I want.
Me "The Pink One"
Him "Oh Pink Okay"


The new super hero of choice in our house closely behind Power Rangers is Captain America. We hadn't yet bought any figures and since my mom got them a new package of superhero undies, my little one was carrying around the still rolled underwear as though they were his new characters. So last night I went out and got him one new Captian America to hold him over for two weeks when he will be getting several for the holiday. The gun and knife that come with him are super tiny and are supposed to fit into his holster. They are teeeny tiny.

Him: Mommy put this in his fing (thing)

Me: These are so tiny I don't know if I can fit these into his holster

Him:  They awr (are) tiny, (now he's singing his own song) "they are tiny like baby raquel, they are tiny like baby raquel."

He's such a character. He loves his new baby cousin roxy ;)

 

Never Pity a Special Needs Mommy

I suppose I can only speak for myself but I'm choosing to make this general statement and believe that every other mom of a special needs child feels the same way that I do. Never feel pity for us, for me. I am the luckiest mom in the world to have both of my amazing boys. My special needs son is the hardest working, sweetest, most snuggly, cuddly, loving, smart, happy boy. He inspires me everyday and has overcome obstacles that I honestly didn't know if he would. I have learned to never doubt him because he amazes me constantly and he is kicking the junk out of this whole developmental delay thing. He has more to do for sure but he is well on his way and we know each day how very blessed we are. I tell him every single night how amazing, smart, special and perfect he is and he just smiles and lights up and hugs me because he knows it and believes it too. Now that he is talking more it is even more amazing to watch him and hear what is on his mind. Never,ever pity. I am the luckiest mom ever and would take 5 more just like this kid. His little brother is his best pest/therapist and I get the honor of being their mommy. Be happy for me because I am thrilled and think twice please before pity ever enters your mind or heart. Envy perhaps but never pity.

Not Star Struck, Success Struck!

I have always thought about the concept of being star struck. What is it about seeing someone who is in a movie or on a television show that gets everyone so excited? Why do we hold these people in such a high regard to the point that their coffee breaks or marriage demise actually lead the national news on any given day. I really have thought about this and I suppose we each have our own star struck moment but it never made sense to me the whole mob scene mentality. I do have to say though that as I get older I feel that for me it's becoming success struck. If Bill Gates or Steve Jobs or a successful entrepreneur passed by me I would be "success struck". Even though actors aren't my inspiration I do have to say that their success and their ability to perfect their role really is an inspiration. When I look at it from that perspective instead of just the frenzy of seeing someone in person who has been in a magazine or on a television show the whole star/success struck makes sense. If Brittany Spears passed me I may nod and say hello because she has done well in her endeavors but for me it's not the glam it's the idea that someone set a goal, busted their butt and succeeded at achieving their mission. That for me makes the act of being "struck" hit home. I am not star struck but I'm inspired by people who have reached their goals and that makes me absolutely success struck :)

My Wishes are simple

My wishes are simple, but I want them all to come true!

~DHM

The Scary Part is That I Considered Being a Baker!

Once upon a time my first business venture was going to be Dollhouse Bakery. I experimented with recipes and tried to master the cookie. I quickly realized I was kidding myself. I'm too fast paced and on to the next thing to spend all that time baking and decorating. I gave up the business mission but I still thought it would be fun to bake with my kids. Sooooo I purchased a cookie pop bake kit and we gave it a whirl. My older son was far to interested in his ipad to break for baking but my 3 year old had his chair pulled up to the counter before my hubby was even home with the eggs. We baked the pops but my little one grew impatient quickly and just came back to add a few sprinkles. I have to say, I really do prefer grabbing the cute little mini cupcakes or sprinkle cookies at the store. I wouldn't say it's pure lazy but it's more knowing they will look and taste perfect if I buy them and of course it takes much less time! Here is our failed visual but successful taste attempt at cookies pops. Yep, we are out of biz.

Living in the Age of Convenience"

I have often said that it would have been great to live in a time where women wore aprons and made meals from scratch and got super dressed up to go.. everywhere. It sounds cute to me but the truth is I love living in this era. The age of convenience. Jeans are standard even for some special occasions and you can dress those up or down just perfectly by simply changing shoes. You can get away with wearing cute yoga pants to work etc. Everything is convenient not just comfortable. Computers, tablets, internet shopping, recordable television shows, everything is convenient. It's a pretty lucky time to be around because honestly the whole world is at our beck and call and we have more opportunities than we have ever had. I run a business each day from the comfort of my home and plan to grow the corporation just as I would if I had to report to an office each day. I find that I notice when things are "easy" and yes part of that may be because we have to run around so much to school and therapy but the fact that the bus pulls right up to my house and drops off my little man is amazing and easy. The fact that I can turn on my computer and work with customers is fulfilling and easy. I always thought it would be fun to live 60 years ago but as I sit here comfy as can be, I think I'll keep enjoying this great age of convenience.

I like being called "sweetie"

I just have to say this because I know how controversial it has become but I actually like being addressed as hon or sweetie by an endearing stranger. I don't find it sexist or disrespectful in any way. I find it sweet and warm and my gut reaction to a "thanks hon" or have a good day sweetie, said by a store clerk etc. is to smile and have a little bounce in my step. The controversy that has erupted over this is very hard for me. I am an equalist for sure...well I'm old fashioned in that I like to make dinner for my hubby and stuff like that but in the big picture I believe in equality among the sexes. I have such a hard time with the fact that a mostly innocent gesture has become an enraging insult to many. I don't really get into the don't promote pink and pretty for girls and don't address women as honey. I'm just into make others feel good, let people like what they like and don't take everything so seriously.. OK HONEY?

Just a little side note here sweetie. That Marry Me heart.. it works. The one on the top of my ring box happens to be purple but yep it worked :)

Holiday Stuff

So this past weekend my typically developing 3 yr old son had a birthday party to attend. He had a great time wearing his Halloween costume and running around like a crazy man for 2 hours. I was exhausted by the time it was over but I digress. When it came time for the group to sing happy birthday I found myself getting my traditional anxiety and then I looked around and remembered which kid I had with me. When we sing happy birthday and my special needs almost 5 yr old son is present, we take note of where he is just in case he experiences sensory overload. He has come SO FAR with this whole thing and seems to actually be enjoying it now but still I never want my little man to be uncomfortable and a large group of people singing a harmony and then yelling and clapping afterward can be a bit trying for those who are sensory sensitive. It's funny how we train ourselves and experience knee jerk reactions even when a situation doesn't really call for the mama bear instinct anymore.

In other holiday goodness, trick or treat season was a great success this year! Buzz light year x 2 in this house! T and I surprised N at school and here are the only pics we got. Not perfect but they capture the moment :)

The only somewhat body pic of the boys.
Washing hands with N's amazing teacher. Cupcake time!

N was so happy when he saw that mommy was there
to pass out candy during practice trick or treat

T is excited to be at big brothers school with his class